Professional Dominants (and others’) BDSM Resource List
In preparing for my presentation today“If I Knew Then What I Know Now:
50 Things Every Up and Coming Professional Should Know!” at DomConLA, I realized I have an INCREDIBLE amount of information and resources I have been compiling over the years! As it continued to grow, I realized some links were down and there are many more resources out there. So for now, I am going to compile this as a blog post and I ask for your help in making it more comprehensive. Also, although this compilation is primarily Professional related, I also want to create a more comprehensive directory for everyone. So, please read through, find some new ways of educating yourself around BDSM and Kink, and be sure to comment with more possibilities, (queers, furries, chastity folk etc – you know who you are!!!).
xo Eve
Professional Dominant and BDSM/Kink Education
In Person Live Training:
Me! I offer in person, long distance, individual and group classes
Eve Minax
Mistress Minax
Annual Professional Dominant Intensives/Erotic Dominance Intensive for Men and Women
Cleo Dubois Academy of SM-Arts
Rope Dojo and Forte Femme
Bondassage Professional Training Program
Tantric Based SM: Urban Tantra Professionals Training and Coaching
POC Specific:
Women of Color Sexual Health Network
Conferences all over the US, but the “go to” for Professionals is DomCon LA and Atlanta
A few other favorite conferences, not necessarily for the professional:
A wonderful small gathering on the East Coast Camp Crucible
Portland Kinksters seem to “get it” KinkFest
One of the most revered of all BDSM conferences Thunder in the Mountains
Stellar conferences and classes all over the US Dark Odyssey
Online Training and Education
Professional Dominants Community Resources
Fetlife (with groups for professionals)
Professional Dominants Marketing Resources
DDI (Domme Directory International) Magazine and Directory
Legal Resources and Activism
Recent legal article on California laws:
Actual California prostitution laws (dry):
SWOP (Sex Workers Outrech Project) USA:
Sex Workers Activists and Allies
Bound Not Gagged (blog covering legal, cultural and political issues around sex work):
Sex In The Public Square (pro- sex work, sex positive activism blog)
Desiree Alliance (Sex worker advocacy and support):
International focus on sex work and activism:
Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
Kink Aware Professionals: Resources of all sorts, primarily therapists
ACLU American Civil Liberties Union
Equipment/Toys/Gear
Stockroom Los Angeles Store and online
Fort Troff – best toys and prices Online
Clothing
Beautiful Custom Corsetry, San Francisco
Superb Custom Corsetry Los Angeles, CA
Fun semi custom latex clothes, UK (online)
Lust Designs custom latex clothing SF, CA
Recommended Reading List
“How to” Books
The Bottoming Book or How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People. Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995
The Bride Wore Black Leather … and he looked fabulous: an etiquette guide for the rest of us. Campbell, Andrew. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000.
A Charm School for Sissy Maids. Lorelei, Mistress. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001
Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. Brame, Gloria G, Fireside, New York, NY 2000
Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It & How to Do It Safely, Henkin, William A. & Holiday, Sybil. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1996
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Easton, Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A., Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1997, reissue 2013
Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex: Make Over Your Love Life with One of the World’s Great Sex Experts. Sprinkle, Annie. Tarcher/Penguin, New York, NY 2005
Family Jewels: a guide to male genital play and torture. Haberman, Hardy. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001
Flogging. Bean, Joseph W, Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000
Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins & Outs of Enema Play. Strict, M. R, Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004
Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook. Wiseman, Jay. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000
Juice: Electricity for Pleasure and Pain. ‘Uncle Abdul’. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998
KinkyCrafts: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/M Toys for the Kinky Handyperson. Green, Lady ed. with Easton, James. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998
The Knot Book. Budworth, Geoffrey. Sterling, New York, NY 1985
Leather and Latex Care. Thibault, Kelly J. Daedulus, San Francisco, CA 1996
Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player. Bean, Joseph W. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1994
Look Into My Eyes: How to Use Hypnosis to Bring Out the Best in Your Sex Life. Masters, Peter. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001
On The Safe Edge: A Manual for SM Play. Jacques, Trevor. WholeSM Publishing, Toronto 1993
Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun. Warren, John. Diversified Services, Brighton, MA 1995
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: the Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism. Miller, Philip & Devon, Molly. Mystic Rose Books, Fairfield, CT 1999
The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage. Midori. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001
The Topping Book or Getting Good at Being Bad. Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A, Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995
The Toybag Guide to:
Canes and Caning. Hardy, Janet W.
Clips and Clamps. Rinella, Jack
Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies. Wiseman, Jay
Foot and Shoe Worship. Midori
Hot Wax and Temperature Play Spectrum
Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004
Trust: The Handbook, A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing. Herrman, Bert. Alamo Square Press, San Francisco CA 1991
Training with Miss Abernathy: a workbook for erotic slaves and their owners. Abernathy, Christina. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 1998
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Taormino, Tristan. Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1998
Whips and Whipmaking. Morgan, David W. Cornell Maritime Press, Centreville, Maryland 1972, 2004
Woof! Perspectives Into the Erotic Care & Training of the Human Dog. Daniels, Michael. A Boner Book, The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, NV 2003
Memoirs/Non-Fiction
Bizarre Sex and Other Crimes of Passion. Tal, Stan ed. Masquerade Books, New York, NY 1998
A Defense of Masochism. Phillips, Anita. Faber and Faber, London, UK 1998
Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex. Gates, Katharine. Juno Books, New York, NY 2000
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission. Brame, Gloria G. & William D. & Jacobs, Jon. Villard, New York, NY 1993
Dominatrix: A Memoir, The Making of Mistress Chloe. Mansfield, Claire & Mendelssohn, John. Headline, London, UK 2002
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment. Morin, Jack. HarperCollins, New York, NY 1996
Erotic Power: An Exploration of Dominance and Submission. Scott, Gini Graham, Citadel Press, Toronto, Ontario 1998
Masochism: Coldness and Cruelty, Venus in Furs. Deleuze Gilles & Sacher-Masoch, Leopold von. Zone Books, New York, NY 1991
Pain and Passion: A Psychoanalyst Explores the World of S&M. Stoller, Robert. Plenum Press, New York, NY 1991
Private Theatre: Personal Observations and Revelations of a Dominatrix. Mistress J. Domina Books, Kew Victoria, Australia 2002
Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture. Queen, Carol. Cleis Press, Pittsburgh, PA 1997
Sex Tips and Tales from Women Who Dare: Exploring the Exotic Erotic. Baker, Jo-Anne. Hunter House, Alameda, CA 2001
‘You Beat People Up For a Living, Don’t You, Mummy?”: Inside The World of the Dominatrix. Turner, Roy ed. Absolute Elsewhere, Brighton, UK 2001
SM/Sex, and Spirituality
Ancient Lovemaking Secrets: The Journey Toward Immortality. McNeil, James W. L9H Publications 1998
From Sex to Superconsciousness. Osho. Full Circle, New Delhi, India 2003
The Love Cure: Therapy Erotic and Sexual. Haule, John Ryan. Spring Publications, Woodstock, CT 1996
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: How Any Man Can Experience Multiple Orgasms and Dramatically Enhance His Sexual Relationship. Chia, Mantak & Abrams, Douglas. HarperCollins, San Francisco, CA 1996
Radical Ecstasy. Easton, Dossie & Hardy, Janet W. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004
Sexual Reflexology: Activating the Taoist Points of Love. Chia, Mantak & Wei, William U. Destiny Books, Rochester, VT 2003
Tantric Yoga: The Royal Path to Raising Kundalini Power. Frost, Gavin and Yvonne. Samuel Weiser, York Beach, ME1989
Gender and Sexuality
Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out. Hutchins, Loraine & Kaahumanu, Lani ed. Alyson Publications, Boston, MA 1991
Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and The Rest of Us. Bornstein, Kate. First Vintage Books, New York, NY 1994
Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Sexual Binary. Nestle, Joan, & Howell, Clare & Wilchins, Riki eds. Alyson Publications, Los Angeles, CA 2002
The Lazy Crossdresser. Anders, Charles. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2002
Miss Vera’s Cross-Dress for Success. Vera, Veronica. Random House, Toronto 2002
Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls. Vera, Veronica. Doubleday Main Street Books, New York, NY 1997
Susie Sexperts Lesbian Sex World. Bright, Susie. Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1994
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